Those who will lecture you about code micro-optimization are generally the same ones which will have 50 SQL queries per page, taking up a total of 2 seconds, because they never heard about profiling. But their code is optimizized !!! (and slow as hell)
Fact : adding another webserver is not difficult. Replicating a database is.
Optimizing webserver code can be a net loss if it adds load on the DB.
Note : 2-3 ms for simple pages (like a forum topic) including SQL is a good target for a PHP website. My old website used to do that.