I have some code which is designed to replace a value in a list
replaceNth n newVal (x:xs)
| n == 0 = newVal:xs
| otherwise = x:replaceNth (n-1) newVal xs
perhaps this does what you want (applied to the list of lists):
replaceNth 1 (replaceNth 3 4 [3,3,3,3,3])
Using your existing definition:
ghci> let arg = [[3,3,3,3,3],[3,3,3,3,3],[3,3,3,3,3]]
ghci> replaceNth 1 (replaceNth 3 2 (arg !! 1)) arg
[[3,3,3,3,3],[3,3,3,2,3],[3,3,3,3,3]]
ghci>
To refactor it into a function:
replaceMthNth m n v arg = replaceNth m (replaceNth n v (arg !! m)) arg
Make a function that applies a function to the nth element of a list instead. Then you can easily get what you want by composing that with itself and using const for the inner replacement.
Your function is not general enough to handle the task you wish it to preform. In particular, you need to know what the replacement value will be before you call the function. To get this working you might either:
Example
replaceNth' :: Int -> (a -> a) -> [a] -> [a]
replaceNth' n f (x:xs)
| n == 0 = (f x):xs
| otherwise = x:replace (n-1) f xs
Now to solve you second problem:
let ls = [[3,3,3,3,3],[3,3,3,3,3],[3,3,3,3,3]]
in replaceNth' 1 (replaceNth' 3 (const 2)) ls
That is replace the second list with a list made by taking the fourth element of that list and replacing what ever it is with 2.