It seems I am not the only one complaining about this. The yellow/gold color on top of the white background really makes me spend more time locating the highlight item. It may n
You may try this extension: http://blogs.msdn.com/b/visualstudio/archive/2010/01/04/changing-visual-studio-s-color-palette.aspx
But, be aware that each language can provide its own Intellisense UI, for extensibility. So, this may not solve your problem.
I use the add-in IntelliSence Presenter to make my IntelliSense look like this:
So, there are ways to change it, but it may involve downloading an add-in or writing your own.