In rails 3.2+, you can do this :
SomeModel.some_scope.first_or_initialize
Which means you can also do :
OtherModel.some_mo
I'm not sure if there is anything built into rails that will do exactly what you want, but you could mimic the first_or_initialize code with a more concise extension than you are currently using, which I believe does what you want, and wrap it into a reusable extension such as the following. This is written with the Rails 3.2 extend format.
module FirstOrBuild
def first_or_build(attributes = nil, options = {}, &block)
first || build(attributes, options, &block)
end
end
class OtherModel < ActiveRecord::Base
has_many :some_models, :extend => FirstOrBuild
end