If you prefer regex, here is a regex solution:
String example = "Hello my is Joeseph. It is very nice to meet you. isWhat a wonderful day it is!";
Matcher m = Pattern.compile("\\bis\\b").matcher(example);
int matches = 0;
while(m.find())
matches++;
System.out.println(matches);
In this case the "is" in "isWhat" is ignored, because of the \b boundary matcher in the pattern