We have multiple Xcode developers logging on a centralized Mac and each users have own account. Each users can start a seperated Simulator window by running below command (" s should be included):
"/Applications/Xcode.app/Contents/Developer/Platforms/iPhoneSimulator.platform/Developer/Applications/iPhone Simulator.app/Contents/MacOS/iPhone Simulator"
After simulator window is opened, runining your project will automatically attach Xcode to this window.
Only thing that I'm not sure about, I've ran below script below before. I don't know if it fixed something on our sytem that allows us to run above command:
http://coderebel.com/2010/08/31/iphone_simulator
So I suggest first try the command, if it does not help, try script, fix your system, then use the command after.