here is the simple code: http://jsfiddle.net/YAFuW/1/
basicly i tried to use like this:
if you need only play or pause video use like this:
var iframe = $('#vimeo-player')[0];
var player = $f(iframe);
$('#stop').click(function() {
alert('stoped');
player.api('pause');
});
$('#play').click(function(){
alert('play');
player.api('play');
})
and markup:
STOP
PLAY
http://jsfiddle.net/zimm/8CV2S/14/