Speaking as a CEH, learn the CEH material first. This will expose you to a variety of tools and platforms used to mount various kinds of attacks. Once you understand your target well, look into the capabilities of the tools and platforms already available (the previously mentioned metasploit framework is very thorough and robust). How can they be extended to meet your needs? Once you know that, you can compare the capabilities of the languages.
I would also recommend taking a look at the tools available on the BackTrack distro.
