For a many to many relationship is it better to use relational database or nosql?

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For a many to many relationship is it better to use relational database or nosql?

Let\'s assume you have a bunch of users. And each user can have friends that are from t

Answer 1

Why would a relational implementation be "gigantic"? Why would your structure be "more efficient"? You are making a lot of unfounded assumptions that it would be good for you to think about. (Learn some relational basics. And the relational take on relational vs NoSQL.)

Re "intuitive", the obvious relational organization for when U friended F is a table Friended holding rows where... "U friended F". Friended(U,F) for short. If you want Us where U friended x, that's the rows where Friended(U,x), ie the rows in PROJECT U RESTRICT F x Friended, ie the rows in PROJECT U (Friended WHERE F=x), depending on whether you want to think in logic, relations or a mix. What's your query for that? Using a relational interface in terms of predicates and tables does not require or preclude any particular implementations. The entire NoSQL movement is a sad consequence of lack of understanding by users and vendors of the relational model as interface to data, not as storage structure. A DBMS for a NoSQL use case needs only to be a relational DBMS better supporting arbitrary types in querying and implementation.

From my answer to Adjustable, versioned graph database:

There is an obvious 1:1 correspondence between your states at a given time and a relational database with a given schema. So there is an obvious 1:1 correspondence between your set of states over time and a changing-schema database, ie a variable whose value is a database plus metadata, manipulated by both DDL and DML update commands. So there is no evidence that you shouldn't just use a relational DBMS.

Relational DBMSs allow generic querying with automated implementation at a certain computational complexity with certain opportunities for optimization. Any application can have specialized queries that make a specialized data structure and operators a better choice. But you must design your application and know about such special aspects to justify this. As it is, with the obvious correspondences between your states and relational states, this has not been justified.

Just because you can draw a picture of your application state as of some time using a graph does not mean that you need a graph database. What matters is what specialized queries/expressions you will be evaluating. You should understand what these are in terms of your problem domain, which is probably most easily expressible per some specialized data structure and operators and relationally. Then you can compare the expressive and computational demands to a specialized data structure, a relational representation, and the models of particular graph databases.

Of course there are specialized applications where we use optimized special operators and storage. But that merits justification, and from a relational perspective should supported by an extendible relational DBMS.