When i was installing Ejabberd, it gave an error saying it wasnt installed successfully. But then i have the folder my-ejabberd with all the folders in it.
I am not sur
In my particular case installing with .dmg i found using find / -name ejabberdctl in terminal and result /Applications/ejabberd.xx.x/bin/ejabberdctl
find / -name ejabberdctl
/Applications/ejabberd.xx.x/bin/ejabberdctl