Self plug: I have just released a new Java HTML parser: jsoup. I mention it here because I think it will do what you are after.
Its party trick is a CSS selector syntax to find elements, e.g.:
String html = "First parse"
+ "Parsed HTML into a doc.
";
Document doc = Jsoup.parse(html);
Elements links = doc.select("a");
Element head = doc.select("head").first();
See the Selector javadoc for more info.
This is a new project, so any ideas for improvement are very welcome!
