Is there a way to limit the amount of memory Phusion Passenger uses when serving up your app?
My host comes by and kills the process after I get a bunch of traffic and
There is no way to limit the memory usage explicitly (say use <= 100MiB).
But what you can do is limit the number of processes by setting PassengerMaxPoolSize. Set that and then see how is the memory usage (that depends on the apps you are running).
Also, using Ruby Enterprise Edition may help.