I believe the way to creating a remote connection is by changing this line in conf/neo4j-server.properties, specifically by removing the comment and restarting the
conf/neo4j-server.properties
Also if you have ssh access to remote server with neo4j you can setup ssh tunnel to access it via localhost:
ssh -NfL localhost:7474:localhost:7474 -L localhost:7687:localhost:7687 yourname@yourhost
then type in browser:
localhost:7474