I have a project (private, ASP.net website, password protected with https) where one of the requirements is that the user be able to enter Sql queries that will directly query t
As the others indicate, letting end-users do this is not a good idea. I suspect the requirement isn't really that the user really needs ad-hoc SQL, but rather a way to get and update data in ways not initially forseen. To allow queries, do as Joel suggests and keep a "read only" database, but use a reporting application such as Microsoft Reporting Services or Data Dynamics Active reports to allow users to design and run ad-hoc reports. Both I believe have ways to present users with a filtered view on "their" data.
For the updates, it is more tricky- I don't know of existing tools to do this. One option may be to design your application so that developers can quickly write plugins to expose new forms for updating data. The plugin would need to expose a UI form, code for checking that the current user can execute it, and code for executing it. Your application would load all plugins and expose the forms that a user has access to.