I migrated my grunt project to ember-cli, I found the time from file modification to liveload completion was so long, about 10 minutes.
After I installed ember-cli-wind
The best solution for fixing performance issues in windows is running a Ubuntu (or whatever linux you want) in a virtual machine, and running ember serve inside it, using NFS to share folders with host.
I had the exact same problem and I'm getting now sub-second building times. Tried all the solutions found here and in the internet, but without luck. I got 10x performance when I migrated to a Ubuntu VM.