F#, 23 lines
Uses brute force and a liberal amount of bitmasking to find a solution:
open System.Collections
let solve(r:string) =
let s = r.Replace("\n", "")
let size = s.Length|>float|>sqrt|>int
let buttons =
[| for i in 0 .. (size*size)-1 do
let x = new BitArray(size*size)
{ 0 .. (size*size)-1 } |> Seq.iter (fun j ->
let toXY n = n / size, n % size
let (ir, ic), (jr, jc) = toXY i, toXY j
x.[j] <- ir=jr&&abs(ic-jc)<2||ic=jc&&abs(ir-jr)<2)
yield x |]
let testPerm permutation =
let b = new BitArray(s.Length)
s |> Seq.iteri (fun i x -> if x = '*' then b.[i] <- true)
permutation |> Seq.iteri (fun i x -> if x = '1' then b.Xor(buttons.[i]);() )
b |> Seq.cast |> Seq.forall (fun x -> not x)
{for a in 0 .. (1 <<< (size * size)) - 1 -> System.Convert.ToString(a, 2).PadLeft(size * size, '0') }
|> Seq.pick (fun p -> if testPerm p then Some p else None)
|> Seq.iteri (fun i s -> printf "%s%s" (if s = '1' then "X" else ".") (if (i + 1) % size = 0 then "\n" else "") )
Usage:
> solve ".*.
***
.*.";;
...
.X.
...
val it : unit = ()
> solve "**.**
*.*.*
.***.
*.*.*
**.**";;
..X..
X.X.X
..X..
X.X.X
..X..
val it : unit = ()
> solve "*...*
**.**
..*..
*.*..
*.**.";;
.....
X...X
.....
X.X.X
....X