For some reason the wireless debugging does not work here. Here is what I\'ve done:
I was able to find a solution to this on another stack overflow question: How do you perform wireless debugging in Xcode 9 with iOS 11, Apple TV 4K, etc?.
You can also check this answer: "Connect via network" wireless debugging not working Xcode 9
Near the bottom, from "IOS DEV". Briefly, the solution ended up to be to unpair my phone, disconnect and re-pair. After that Xcode automatically added it with the globe. As an FYI, I was able to ping my iPhone using the network utility prior to the un-paring but was still unable to get the phone to connect. good luck.